The Desire Map Part 01: The What, Why, + How

Oh dear blog, how I’ve neglected thee …

And you, my fantastic reader on the other end of this screen, I have forsaken thee …

OK, that’s enough of the uber-old-school talk – the point I’m trying to make is that I fell off the blogging bandwagon (yet again) and its time to make some big changes!

Desire Map Part 01: The What, Why, + How @

If you’ve been following along on my journey for some time now, then you know that my career has taken many twists + turns: modeling, acting, singing, writing, photography, yoga … the list goes on.

Personally, my life has been quite the rollercoaster as well: started writing professionally, father died unexpected, moved to San Francisco, moved back to Connecticut, got married, husband joined the Marine Corps, moved to San Diego, became a yoga teacher, husband deployed to Afghanistan, moved to Brooklyn, almost got divorced, husband got out of the Marine Corps, moved back to Connecticut so he can go to college … wow, that makes me tired just reading it.

Don’t get me wrong, I love the adventure of life + I’m always eager to see what’s next, but the twisting + turning is getting a big exhausting. I’m 31. It’s time for a greater sense of direction – and you get to witness the whole (messy, spectacular) process!

Before you think this post is all about me, it’s not – it’s about you too. It’s about your curiosity, your struggle, your desire to have the life you feel in your heart + soul, but you’re not quite sure how to get there.

This is not my struggle – this is our struggle – as creators, as modern yogis, as humans. I hope my process will give you some insight, some inspiration, some drive to get out there and make things happen for you.


I’ve been following Danielle LaPorte for years – even before The Fire Starter Sessions book was released.

When The Desire Map book came out, I was deeply intrigued by the concept.

Some of you also know that I have a history of clinical depression and anxiety. Even with that, I’ve always said that I would never want to numb my emotions – feeling emotions is part of what makes the human experience so amazing.

To come across a book that embraces emotions/feelings in order to live your most authentic, kick-ass life? Well that just seems perfect, doesn’t it!?


Well I think that covers the WHAT + WHY part of this post … let’s get to the HOW.

If you follow me on Instagram, then you already know I’m reading through The Desire Map right now. I’m 95 pages into it + definitely grooving on what Danielle is covering so far.

Over the next month or two, I’ll be blogging about my experience reading through The Desire Map, as well as doing the vital worksheets in the second half of the book, to uncover my Core Desired Feelings (CDF for short).

The Desire Map 101: By knowing your 3-5 CDF, you can make decisions and take action in your life based on what it is you want to feel. If something doesn’t bring you to one of your CDF, don’t do it. It’s that simple + that complicated, all at the same time.

As someone who has had many goals that have fallen short + many unexpected successes, I know how unfulfilling life can seem.

You want something, you don’t get it, you get bummed out.

You get something better, it’s OK for awhile, then you’re disappointed again.

You set another goal, miss the mark again, then wonder why goals exist at all.

The cycle has to stop. For me. For you. For everyone.

Reading + working through The Desire Map is my 1st step in the right direction.

Fuck goals – bring on the feelings!


So far, I’ve read some fantastic things, but I don’t want to bog down this post with all of that.

Next week, I’ll be posting about what I’ve discovered so far in the book – including the fact that I might have uncovered some of my CDF already (or I’m way off the mark, we’ll see)!

Until then, I hope you’re as excited about the journey as I am – and you’re welcome to come along!

If you’ve never read The Desire Map before, get yourself a copy, start reading, + post your insights in the comments.

If you’ve read The Desire Map before (but not recently), re-read the book with me, uncover new gems of wisdom, + discover your fresh CDF.


Have you read The Desire Map?

If yes, what are your current CDF?

If no, what are your initial impressions of the book?

COMMENT below, share your thoughts, + join the conversation!

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