The Desire Map Part 04: When The Real Work Begins …

Ahoy + welcome! Let’s work through Danielle LaPorte’s The Desire Map together – if you’re new + curious, check out Part 1 + Part 2 + Part 3 to catch up 🙂

It’s nearly impossible to condense Danielle’s wisdom into 3 blog posts, but we’ve past the point of gathering wisdom … now it’s time to apply it!

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The “real work” – I hesitated using that phrase because it sounds so serious and, well, a big bummer.

On the other hand, do you remember the section about resistance in the last post?

If your resistance hadn’t kicked in yet, it’s about to!

Prepare for resistance + prepare to push past it, because it’s time to finally start filling out the worksheets.

I’ll easily admit that I resisted this part, but why?

This is the whole point – to read through Danielle’s wisdom, then start applying it to find out your Core Desired Feelings + help change your life for the better.

Sounds simple + exciting, no?

Oh yes – it’s exciting, but the moment you start overthinking it, that’s when the resistance sets in.

You have no idea what you’re going to write down on those worksheets.

You have no idea what hidden fears, memories, or passions they might unearth.

And that’s the point … you have no idea. And you’ll never know unless you do it.

Which is why after days of resistance, I locked myself in my bedroom + completed the first section of worksheets (pages 157-167).

Though they’re simply meant to be a “warm-up” to the juicy worksheets ahead, I found the initial worksheets to be helpful in loosening up my grip on my logical mind + thinking more with my gut/heart/desire.

I can’t say that I had any huge revelations, but there were a few of the questions that caught me off-guard:

Light and heavy – this brings me alive, enlivens me, reminds me of who I am: Writing, sharing, interacting, helping, Yoga, fitness, food, nature, being outdoors, intelligent conversation, reading + interpreting/simplifying the info

Light and heavy – this depresses my spirit, weights me down, down, down: Limits, bills, taxes, marketing/PR, moving/relocating, changing jobs/bosses, rigid scheduling, “traditional” jobs

I’ve always known that money is a big stress trigger for me, but I wasn’t expecting it to be such a significant chunk of the things that weight me down.

On the flip side, there are a number of business ideas that I could derive from the things that enliven me (now I just need to narrow them down!)

What I know to be true: I can succeed when I get out of my own way

Hooray – that’s finally starting to sink in!

I know I’m happy when: I feel free to follow my curiosity

Ecstasy lives: in laughter, outdoors, fresh food, strength, science, passion

The same themes keep popping up: freedom/flexibility to explore, food, science, fitness/health/Yoga

What feels ever-present and steady within me is: nothing

Wow – cut right to the chase with that one!

I’m still not quite sure what to make of this, other than the fact that while I enjoy exploring, I am looking for some consistency in my life (finally).

I keep in reserve, locked up, and hidden away: my full truth, my questions, my urge to reach out + support others

I’m frightened: that I have nothing worth offering

Oi – I can’t believe I’m actually posting this, but it needs to be said.

At some point in your life, you’ve felt like you have nothing the world needs. Nothing that will make the world a better place.

You’ve felt it. I’ve felt it. I still feel it (as you can tell from the worksheets!).

The important thing it WHAT you do when these feelings creep in, when that voice in your head is telling you that you should just quit.

What do you do?

Tell it to fuck off!

You’re afraid, you’re experiencing resistance, + that’s natural.

That means change is happening, so acknowledge the resistance, + keep going.

Blog about your fear, paint about your fear, write out your fears + burn the paper – whatever you need to do to get the negative buzzing out of your mind so you can focus on how kick-ass you are + keep going forward.

I stop being generous when: I’m in debt, I lose confidence in my career/business

What moves and touches me deeply: music, Yoga, massage, science, nature, intelligent conversation

My most regular waking thought: How am I going to make money + pay off debt?

Those money hangups are showing up again.

So are the same positive themes: fitness/health/Yoga, science, nature, talking with others. I also forgot just how important physical contact + in-person interactions are for me. More things worth contemplating.



This is just the tip of the iceberg!

Next week, I’ll be writing about the next set of worksheets, which cover “gratitude + what’s not working” (notably, as of the publishing of this post, I haven’t filled them out yet … but I will)

It’s only going to get more intense from here, so acknowledge your resistance, + let’s keep going forward 🙂




What is your most regular waking thought?

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